Alcohol and strippers often comprise the stereotypical bachelor party celebration of a groom's final night as a free man. Bachelor parties also may entail all-weekend events that involve traveling, lodging and other expenses. While the best man typically arranges and plans the party, the financial burden should not fall on him alone. If you're a groomsman helping the groom prepare for his big day, make sure to toss some of your own cash into the bachelor party pot.
Split It Equally
Prior to the bachelor party, the best man usually lets groomsmen know pertinent details such as the date and time, location, activities and the party cost. It's typical for groomsmen to split the costs, so if the best man gives you an estimate of the upfront costs, like what he's paid for food or rental space, be ready to contribute your share. If the party involves expenses that occur throughout the party like drinks, taxis and tips, find out what you owe once the party ends. If you can't afford to pitch in, it might be best to hang up your groomsman tux and tell all involved that you simply can't afford it. You might luck out and in the spirit of the festivities, the others may cover your share of the expenses.
Pay for Bits
While one-night bachelor parties involving alcohol, food and other entertainment could cost groomsmen a few hundred bucks, more extravagant parties that take attendees away from the local scene for more than a night could easily top $1,000. If the bachelor party runs a full weekend, you may not be present for all the events or spend as much time at the party as some other attendees. If this is the case, you shouldn't have to split everything evenly. Keep track of your own activities and give the best man your share at the end of the weekend.
Pay for It All
If you're a groomsman whose pockets are overflowing with funds, why not put those funds to good use and foot the bill for the entire bachelor party? The best man and other groomsmen may balk at such an offer, but they also may appreciate the gesture and up your standing in the groomsmen community. If you make such a gesture, do so in a courteous and thoughtful manner without throwing your financial weight in their faces. The last thing you want is for your fellow groomsmen to feel inferior because their wallets are not quite as fat as yours.
When the Groom Pays
The groom usually pays nothing for his own bachelor party, although there's an exception to that rule should the bachelor party take place out of town. If the bachelor party involves expenses such as airfare and hotel, you do not have an obligation to pay the groom's way. In such a case, the groom will typically pay for his own flight and lodging. If the best man and other groomsmen insist on covering all the groom's expenses, including travel and lodging, feel free to let them know that you think otherwise. However, be prepared to accept the majority opinion and contribute your share if you can.
Jim Radenhausen is a freelancer who began writing professionally in 1998. A resident of Reeders, Pa., he spent over two years working at the "Eastern Pennsylvania Business Journal." Radenhausen received his bachelor's degree in English/professional writing from Kutztown University in 1997.